Sister Shivani Parenting Tips: Children are the light of the house. Their smile and mischief bring life to the house. But when these children repeatedly make mistakes or become careless, then often parents get angry and scold them. They think that the child will improve by scolding. But the reality is different from this. Motivational speaker BK Shivani believes that scolding repeatedly makes children more stubborn and silent. In such a situation, if you want your child to listen to you, then instead of scolding, you have to make a small change.

What is the effect of scolding repeatedly?

If you scold the child for every small thing, then fear starts to settle in his mind. He thinks that if he says or does anything, he will be scolded. Slowly he starts distancing himself from you. Many times the child becomes so silent that his real thoughts and feelings are also suppressed. Due to fear, he neither tells about his mistake nor wants to take advice from anyone. Such a child feels lonely and his thinking power also becomes weak.

Adopt this method instead of scolding.
BK Shivani says that the most effective way to improve children is to remind them of their good qualities. Sit with them for some time every day and tell them how intelligent they are. Remind them how they work responsibly, how they help others, and what good things they do. This will make the child feel that you understand him and respect him.

“You are a very good child.”

“I am proud of you.”

“You learn something new every day, this is a very good thing.”

“Your behavior is becoming very good.”

With these things, the child will feel special and will automatically start listening to you. BK Shivani says that every word spoken by the parents affects the child's heart. If that word is said with love and trust, then its effect increases manifold.

If you want to explain to your child, then build a trusting relationship. Instead of getting angry at the mistake, explain to him what could have been done better. When the child feels sensible and special, then he learns to take responsibility. Assure him that he can do anything and you are always with him.

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