Parenting Tips: It's very important for parents to talk to their children after they come home from school. However, most parents ask their children the same question: "What did you learn at school today?" Pediatrician Michelle Shah shared a video on this topic on her Instagram handle. In this video, the doctor explains that asking this one question thoughtlessly every day is not good and can put pressure on children.

Michelle Shah says that when children leave school, they are tired. Expecting them to immediately tell you everything they learned can make them "result-oriented." This means the child starts to think that a concrete answer or result is always expected of them. Sometimes a child has experienced and learned a lot, but they can't express it in words. In such cases, they might become silent or feel frustrated.

Michelle Shah says that parents' intentions are not wrong. Every parent wants to know what their child is learning at school, how the teachers are teaching, and what the school environment is like. But if the way of asking questions is changed slightly, children can talk more openly.

What to ask your child after school?
The pediatrician advises asking children questions that focus on their process, not just the results. For example:

Question 1: Did you face any difficulties at school today?

Question 2: What did you play with your friends today?

Question 3: Was there anything the teacher said today that you had trouble understanding?

Question 4: Did anything fun happen at school today?

These questions make children feel that their experiences, feelings, and efforts also matter. They don't have to worry about giving the right or wrong answer. They gradually start to open up about how their day went.

This type of conversation helps children understand that life is not just about reaching the goal, but the journey itself is equally important. When we make these changes in our language, children become more confident and learn to express their emotions more effectively.

Therefore, parents need to spend some quality time talking to their children every day. Asking the right questions can open the door to a child's inner world.

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