Indian Parenting Mistakes: Whenever news breaks of a vibrant, talented young girl suddenly departing this world, it sends a shudder through one's very soul. The death of Twisha Sharma has once again left us all numb with shock. Looking at her photos and videos on social media, no one could have ever guessed the depth of pain hidden behind that smile. But this is not merely a news story to be read and then forgotten as we move on with our lives. It serves as a chilling "wake-up call" for every parent who has a daughter. The times have changed, and the challenges facing our children have evolved alongside them.
If we continue to cling to old, outdated ways of living, believe me—we will be left with nothing but regret. As parents, in the wake of Twisha Sharma's death, there are five crucial things we must understand immediately:
1. The Glamour of Social Media Is Not Reality (Reel vs. Real Life)
We often see our children smiling, creating reels, or dressed in their finest clothes on social media, and we simply assume that "everything is fine." Remember: social media presents only a "filtered version" of life. While children readily share their moments of joy online, they often conceal their loneliness and struggles with depression. It is far more important to know how your daughter truly feels once the screen goes dark than to merely observe how happy she appears on it.
2. Let Go of the Fear of "What Will People Say"; Be Your Daughter's Shield
The greatest malady plaguing our society is the obsessive fear of "what the neighbors—or society—will say." Often, daughters find themselves trapped in toxic relationships, overwhelmed by career-related stress, or enduring emotional abuse. They may desperately wish to confide in their parents, yet they remain silent, terrified that society—or even their own family—will turn around and blame *them*. Reassure your daughter that even if the entire world turns against her, her parents will always stand by her side. She needs your unwavering support far more than she needs protection from society's taunts and judgments.
3. Bridge the "Communication Gap."
Is your daughter able to share everything with you openly? Or does she feel intimidated or afraid to talk to you? If your conversations are limited merely to questions like, "How is your studying going?" or "Have you eaten?", then you are in the danger zone. Become your daughter's friend. Spend at least 15 minutes a day—perhaps over tea or while taking a walk—engaging in conversations where there is absolutely no judgment. Once she knows that everything she says will be heard, she will never contemplate taking any drastic, self-destructive step.
4. Take Mental Health Seriously
Even today in our country, if a child says, "I feel sad" or "I feel lonely," parents often dismiss it by saying, "Oh, what do you lack? We’ve given you everything; this is all just your imagination." Mental distress does not discriminate based on material comforts or privileges. If you notice sudden changes in your daughter's behavior—if she becomes irritable or begins isolating herself by locking herself in her room—take it seriously. Do not hesitate to seek the help of a counselor if needed.
5. Make Her Strong, Not Just 'Perfect.'
We teach our daughters to strive to be number one in everything. Whether it is topping their class, landing a good job, or looking beautiful, we place an unspoken pressure on them to be 'perfect.' However, we fail to teach them how to cope with 'failure' and 'rejection.' Let them know that losing in life—whether it involves the breakdown of a relationship or a broken heart—is a normal part of the human experience. A single failure does not mark the end of life.
Ultimately, it is crucial to understand that shedding tears or merely expressing grief over the tragic death of Twisha Sharma is not enough. The true tribute to her memory will be paid only when we awaken the dormant parenting instincts within our own homes. By all means, give your daughters the sky to soar in, but also provide them with a haven—a home where, should they return weary or defeated, they find not scolding, but a mother ready to embrace them and a father ready to offer encouragement. Mend your ways while there is still time; otherwise, remember this... the tears of regret are a heavy burden to bear.
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