Raising children in today's world has become a challenge for parents. With the way the world is changing rapidly, the old-fashioned parenting methods are no longer as useful. There was a time when parents' words were accepted without questioning, but today's children ask 'why' on everything and want the right answer.

Children are growing up amidst smartphones, the internet, and constant information. In such a situation, methods of discipline based on silent obedience or fear no longer work. Are parents unable to understand the source of negative habits in children? Because the environment of children has changed.

Smartphones and internet media have become an important part of their lives, going beyond family, relatives, friends, and school. Amidst the education being received in this environment, parents are also confused about how to create balance in the parenting of Gen Alpha.

As is the company, so is the color

Earlier, children grew up between parents, family, and school. This was the only scope of sanskar and bad habits. If a naughty child does mischief, parents immediately say, 'Stay away from that child.' But today the story is different. Today, due to the internet media, all kinds of thoughts are arising in the minds of children. Parents are unable to understand where the change in the nature of children is coming from. Where should the initiative for improvement be taken?

Childhood is affected by global change.

Three major changes have greatly affected the experience of becoming a parent. Today, children are spending more time in the digital world. Today's children watch as much content in a week as previous generations used to watch in a year. Their minds are more stimulated, which makes it difficult for them to concentrate and relax. Apart from this, the lack of community is also an important factor in this.

Many parents are raising their children alone without family and friends. Children also feel emotionally lonely. Earlier, if parents were busy, grandparents or neighbors would take care of the children. Today, the child is often alone with the device. In all this, the fast pace of modern life has added to the trouble.

Due to the constantly busy schedule, children do not get a chance to be quiet, get bored, or grow slowly. A child, who used to go to five different classes, said, 'I do not know what I like, I am always busy.' Meaning, when children do not get time for themselves, they get away from their inner voice.

No one is perfect
The most important advice: there is no written principle of parenting. No one is perfect; in such a situation, neither you need to be perfect yourself nor do you need to mold children to the standard of perfection. The most important thing is that you are emotionally available to the child. If you get angry at the child without any reason, then while apologizing, you can say, 'I was upset, but I should not have shouted at you.'

Such moments do not create embarrassment, but trust. Parents and children have started hesitating to talk to each other; this is a big defeat of relationships. Express your feelings by writing to each other; this will increase mutual trust, and children will start listening and understanding what you say. Children do not need perfect parents, but people who stay with them and make them feel safe.

A father could not attend his daughter's program due to work, so he recorded a video and sent it, in which he said that he felt proud of his daughter. The daughter watched that video five times. To build a relationship, honesty is needed, not big promises!

Indian principles will be useful.

To raise children of today's era, not just rules are needed, but strong relationships are needed. Three Vedic principles can help in this-

Sahridayata (empathy) - understanding and feeling what the child is thinking.

Sthitapragna (peace) - staying calm during the emotional turmoil of children.

Satsang (conscious environment) - creating an environment of security, truth and cooperation at home.

Know what's on his mind
If a child is refusing to go to school, he may be facing bullying or fear. Instead of telling him, 'Don't act up,' you can ask, 'What's wrong with school?'
If a teenager storms out and slams the door, instead of reacting angrily, pause and say, 'It looks like you're upset. I'll be there when you're ready.'
Families who sit down and talk, even once a week, have deeper emotional relationships and better behavior.

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