Parenting Tips: Children of the 80s and 90s grew up listening to stories from their grandmothers, nurtured by the love and discipline of their grandparents. But now, the new generation, Alpha and Gen Beta, is moving away from this kind of upbringing. The trend of nuclear families has distanced children from their grandparents.

Although today's parents are more vigilant and active in raising their children, and their intentions are good, and they put in a lot of effort, something is still missing. The reason is simple: some lessons aren't taught, but learned through experience, and this is what grandparents have been doing for centuries. Parents try to send their children to good and expensive schools, but grandparents are schools in themselves; they don't teach a curriculum, but rather classes of life experiences.

Nuclear families provide convenience but not values. Grandparents give children ample time during their childhood. They supervise them well, impart good lessons by narrating stories from the Ramayana and Mahabharata, and teach children to care for others and show compassion. This is not possible for parents because they cannot give their children so much time, even if they want to. Let's find out what shortcomings remain in parenting despite the efforts of parents, which only grandparents can fulfill.

The Lesson of Patience

In their busy lifestyles, parents lack time. They manage everything – office, meetings, homework, tuition, etc. They have to find time for everything. But grandparents move at their own pace. They have plenty of time for their grandchildren. Rarely do you hear them say, "Not now, wait, I'm busy." Children learn from them that not every answer comes immediately, and not every wish is fulfilled instantly. Due to their busy schedules, parents don't have enough patience, so the child doesn't learn patience either. But the elderly pass on their patient behavior to the children.

Unconditional Love

Parents' love is often intertwined with responsibilities. Parents raise their children amidst right and wrong, numbers, and rules. But grandparents' love is unconditional. Grandparents scold less for mistakes, instead explaining things with affection and tenderness. This affection provides children with the emotional security from which self-confidence is born. They don't feel pressured and feel emotionally closer to their grandparents.

Identity within the Family

Grandparents don't just tell stories; they pass on their lineage. By sharing stories of their family's struggles, sacrifices, and triumphs, they show children where they come from. Modern education provides skills, but not identity. Grandparents quietly impart this identity through bedtime stories. When a child understands their family's history and hard work, they appreciate it. They also learn to respect their relatives.

Values ​​vs. Instructions

Parents explain what is right and wrong. Grandparents show children how to live. Helping neighbors, respecting elders, and appreciating food cannot be taught like a lesson. Instead, these values ​​are integrated into daily life. Children learn what they see every day.

Language, Dialect, and Roots

With grandparents, the dialect stays alive. Children understand the true meaning of festivals and customs. All of this keeps children connected to their roots while making them global citizens. Strong roots lead to higher flights.

Distance from Screens

Parents cannot dedicate their full time to their children. Therefore, children spend most of their time on mobile phones, laptops, or TV screens. Screen time hinders a child's brain development and makes them isolated. With grandparents, children play, listen to stories, communicate, and learn. These skills are not acquired through screen time. They also learn to understand the language of their grandparents' eyes.

Gentle Discipline

Parents' discipline is goal-oriented. Parents sometimes become strict to keep their children disciplined, but grandparents' discipline is relationship-centered. In this approach, children follow the rules, but they don't feel stifled. They understand that mistakes can be corrected.

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