In couples who have more than one child, there is often partiality between the children. One child is the parents' favourite and the other is not worth anything. The parents themselves knowingly or unknowingly make the child feel that he is not their favorite child. This behaviour of theirs affects the mental health of the child for life and such children do not have a cordial relationship with their parents or with their siblings.

Parents do not make comparisons intentionally.

Parenting expert Dr. Geetanjali Sharma says that when parents make comparisons between their two children, both their mental health and physical health are affected. The child's view of himself and the world is affected. Parents do not make comparisons intentionally between their children but their behavior makes them do so knowingly or unknowingly.

Such children become parents' favorites.
A child becomes a favorite for the parents due to many reasons. Often this happens due to the order in which the children were born. The eldest child in the family gets more love and attention than the rest. Another reason for this is the personality of the children. Parents like a child who looks beautiful or has an attractive personality.

Research conducted in China revealed that the favorite children of parents are more prone to mobile addiction (Image-Canva)

Obedient children are good.

In the eyes of parents, those children are good and obey everything they say, that is, they are obedient. Such children follow the path shown by their parents. They score marks according to their expectations. They make a career according to their parents. At the same time, some children have similar interests with their parents. When their interest is the same, then they get along well with each other. A smart and intelligent child automatically becomes the favorite of the parents.

The child lacks self-confidence.

According to Dr. Geetanjali Sharma, parents unknowingly make their disliked child a negative personality. Such a child is unable to keep up with the goodness of others. He considers himself inferior in front of others. This makes him lose confidence. He feels that he is not good and an inferiority complex surrounds him. He starts believing that his parents do not like him. A child always feels safe with his parents, but such a child feels insecure. In such a situation, children see the world through the eyes of their parents because they judge their children. Parents make them bad people. When parents are unable to accept them as their own, they are also unable to accept themselves.

Begins to feel jealous of their siblings

Children whom parents consider worthless are unable to love themselves and understand their value. Even if that child is good at some other work, he considers himself bad and sees himself as a loser. They start hating their parents as well as their siblings. Criticism from parents creates jealousy in their minds.

Sometimes children conspire

To appear good in the eyes of their parents, such children become enemies of their siblings. They start conspiring so that the other child does not do better work or does not get good marks. They start spoiling their image to such an extent that they forget that their siblings are also their family. The bitterness of such children does not go away throughout their life.

Parents have a bad effect on the development of the child due to their mistakes (Image-Canva)

Depression and anxiety surround them.

Children who are not considered their own by their parents, such children are never able to make others their own. They become hungry for praise. They want someone to appreciate them but their childhood attitude fills them with insecurity. They also spoil their relationship with their partner and friends because they are unable to trust others. They feel that if their partner is not praising them or is not paying attention to them, then he is cheating on them. In such a situation, such children start suffering from anxiety and depression. They become very sensitive. They are unable to bear criticism. Such people always live in fear that someone might leave them.

The favorite child is also troubled.
The child who is the favorite of the parents is also always under pressure because he has to remain good in the eyes of the parents. He has to fulfil the expectations of his parents. There is a fear in his mind that if he is not able to do this, then the parents will behave with him like other children. It is difficult for him to bear criticism. The fear of failure also starts haunting him. Actually, such children get used to getting praise and attention.

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